The 4 R’s That Shape My Week

For years, I thought progress—whether in marriage, personal growth, or work—required daily consistency. If it wasn’t happening every single day, I felt like I was falling short. But life’s schedule had other ideas.

The turning point came during a marriage planning exercise. My original plan was to connect with my spouse daily, but our calendars didn’t agree. Rather than forcing what wasn’t working, we shifted our sessions to Sundays—and it worked beautifully. That one change revealed something bigger: I already had a natural weekly flow.

Daily Foundation: The 3 Cs
Every morning, I start with a routine I call the 3 Cs:

1. Center – Water, writing, and Bible reading, along with prayer and exercise, to ground my mind and spirit.
2. Consume – Fuel my body with something light to energize for the day ahead.
3. Conquer – Launch into a mindset ready to win the day, tackling tasks with focus and intention.

This daily foundation sets the tone for the week and supports each of the 4 R’s.

Here’s how my weekly rhythm looks:

Sunday – Refresh (Marriage & Myself) 🧘 Sunday is sacred for renewal. It’s when I attend church, intentionally connect with my spouse, and carve out time for my own restoration—whether that’s reading, or simply quiet moments. This day is about refilling my cup so I can pour into the week ahead.

Monday–Thursday – Rise (Productivity & Progress) 📈 These are my “go” days. Fueled by Sunday’s reset, I commit to moving projects forward, tackling work goals, and leaning into growth. Momentum happens here—personally, professionally, and relationally. These are the days I intentionally rise to the challenge.

Friday – Reflect (Pause & Take Stock) ✍️ Friday is for intentional assessment. It’s my chance to look back—what went well, what needs growth, where I need to give thanks. Sometimes that’s journaling, sometimes it’s a walk or a good conversation. Reflection clears the way for Saturday.

Saturday – Reward (Celebrate the Wins) 🎉 By Saturday, it’s time to enjoy the fruit of the week—whether that’s a date night, a favorite meal, or simply something fun. Reward keeps the joy alive and marks a healthy close to the week. It’s a purposeful celebration.

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Riding the Wave

What I’ve learned is this: daily checklists can feel rigid, but weekly rhythms flex with life’s realities—work, appointments, shifting energy, and the unexpected. Instead of fighting the tide, I’ve learned to ride the wave.

Your rhythm doesn’t need to look like mine. The point is not perfection but sustainability: creating a cadence that allows you to refresh, rise, reflect, and reward in ways that bring balance and growth.

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” — Ecclesiastes 3:1 (CSB)