The Clues Are in Our Instincts

Watch what happens when you connect with someone.

You don’t calculate a smile when you meet someone new—you just smile. You don’t plan laughter when a friend tells a great joke—it spills out. You don’t need instructions to hug your family—you lean in. These gestures aren’t taught. They’re instinctive.

And instincts reveal design.

They point to something profound about how we’re wired: we were built to be people-centered. Connection isn’t optional or learned later—it’s embedded. While modern culture nudges us toward self-focus and accumulation, the satisfaction it promises fades quickly. Compare that to the lasting lift you feel when you encourage someone or make another person’s day better. One disappears. The other compounds.

Zig Ziglar said it best: “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” That’s not hype—it’s how life actually works.

Blessing Others Changes Us

Humans thrive when we lift others. Our mood improves. Our stress decreases. Our sense of purpose expands. Even our physical health responds positively to acts of kindness.

Service realigns us. Anxiety loosens. Gratitude grows. Joy shows up—not because we chased it, but because we stopped staring at ourselves long enough to serve someone else. Trust and opportunity tend to follow the same pattern, finding people who consistently add value.

Self-Care Fuels Other-Care

Being people-centered doesn’t mean neglecting yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Taking care of your body, finances, mental health, and spiritual life increases your capacity to bless others with consistency and generosity. Self-care isn’t the destination—it’s the fuel.

We were built to give, and Scripture reminds us why:

“Do not neglect to do what is good and to share, for God is pleased with such sacrifices.”
— Hebrews 13:16 (CSB)

Care for yourself wisely.
Bless others generously.
Joy tends to follow.