The mind is wired for stories—it’s how we make sense of the world. And like the spread on a lunch buffet, there’s something for every taste: adventure stories, victim stories, hero stories, cautionary tales, or comeback chronicles. We don’t just consume stories from books or Netflix; we absorb them from our homes, the media, our faith communities, and the workplace. But the most influential narratives are the ones we quietly repeat in our own minds.

We become what we believe, and often what we believe comes from the stories we’ve inherited—not necessarily the ones we’ve chosen. Maybe someone told you, “You’re too much,” or “You’re not enough.” Maybe you’ve internalized a story of scarcity, fear, or failure. Without realizing it, those old scripts can shape your present and limit your future.

Let’s name five common types of stories we live by:

1. The Victim Story – “Bad things always happen to me.”
2. The Martyr Story – “I have to sacrifice everything for others.”
3. The Hero Story – “I’ve overcome, and I’ll do it again.”
4. The Underdog Story – “No one believed in me, but I proved them wrong.”
5. The Stuck Story – “This is just the way things are. I can’t change.”

Which one have you been telling yourself? And is it even true?

Tony Robbins emphasizes three life-changing questions we can use to take back authorship of our own story:

1. What are you going to focus on? – Because what you focus on, you feel.
2. What does it mean? – You get to assign the meaning to your experiences.
3. What are you going to do about it? – Change begins with action.

Today, choose one sentence you’ve been telling yourself—just one—and rewrite it.
Instead of: “I’m always behind.”
Try: “I am learning to move at the pace of grace.”

Instead of: “I’m not good enough.”
Try: “I am uniquely equipped to grow into who I’m called to be.”

God didn’t create you to live in bondage to a broken narrative. You’re not stuck with the first draft. You’re invited to co-author a better one—with Him.

“Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.”
—Romans 12:2 (CSB)