I do not know about you but guilt and shame for me is like kryptonite. But I have become better at forgiving myself from past mistakes.

In his book The Miracle Morning Hal Elrod mentioned that many people have “the rearview mirror syndrome.” This is where we constantly look in the past to determine if we can successfully take on a new task, habit, or mindset in the present. T Harv Eker in his book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind echoed this concept and said that by constantly looking at the past we would be reactive in the present and not make the best choices for ourselves. I can relate. Guilt and shame could cause you to be consumed by what is in your rearview mirror.

Have you ever done something which you know is not in your best interest, but you did it anyway? It could have been because of fear, pressure, stress, or frustration. It could have been because you were trying to fulfil one of the six human needs as taught by Tony Robbins – Certainty, Uncertainty/Variety, Significance, Connection/Love, Growth or Contribution. Did you feel guilty and ashamed afterwards? Going forward, know that you are not locked into doing anything, according to 1 Corinthians 10:13,

No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful, he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so you can endure it.

But what if you still transgress or make an unwise decision anyway? First, take ownership. Do not blame someone or something. Ask God to forgive you and forgive yourself. Do not let that non-supportive habit continue to be your kryptonite and limit you from functioning in an optimum way.

In my distress I prayed to the Lord, and the Lord answered me and set me free (Psalm 118:5)