In your marriage you need a particular activity, maybe a certain touch or word, which will have a certain or definite touch – will always reach your spouse, no matter the level of conflict between both of you.  It must be something he or she has given you permission to use even in times of conflict.

In my marriage I gave my wife the permission to inquire about my business at any time.  This works for me because I want to be held accountable for the means I use to provide for my family, even when I’m not on the job – this certain touch is certain to reach me.  I got this idea after reading this charge given in one of my company’s materials:

“As a financial advisor, your job is to help clients pursue their financial goals.  To be effective, you need to lead, believe in yourself, be confident and courageous.  Because ultimately, your clients depend on you to help them achieve their dreams.”

This is also a fitting thought for the gentlemen in the home.  Our wives are depending on us to be the leader toward family dreams even when the emotional climate in the home is inclement.  My wife has a way to remind me to be the man God has called me to be with my family.

The Bibletells the story of a woman who had a bleeding problem for twelve years.  But she came behind Jesus, touched the hem of His garment and was healed.  It was fascinating that just by touching his clothes she was healed but it was just as interesting that Jesus turned around and asked, “Who touched me?”  It didn’t matter that crowds of people were thronging Him.  The lady had a certain touch that was not like any in the crowd because power had gone out of Jesus (Luke 8:43-48).

Your spouse, male or female, is depending on you to reach out in faith, despite the distractions of ill-feelings, and make a certain touch.  Also, your spouse is depending on you, despite the distractions of ill-feelings, to recognize that he or she is attempting to make a certain touch.  Remember this, your spouse is not the enemy, but Satan is.  His charter is to build a wedge between the two of you and he will often use your mind, tongue and actions to accomplish his work.  He can only accomplish it when you choose to give in to his suggestion, but if you resist him, he will flee from you (James 4:7).  Your spouse is depending on you for a certain touch.

May I touch you, any time?

Yes, yes!  If you don’t, it will be a crime

Thanks for the permission I believe I still hold

I wish to never be too emotionally distracted that I’m cold

My faith in us drives me despite painful slights

And my heart also aches yet I yearn to again satisfy your plights

Surely Satan is busy and is trying to cloud the mind

My love, your certain touch penetrates for peace to find